Have you read Loretta Breuning's Status Games? Very similar content, but I think the advice is a bit more specific.
In particular, she doesn't delve so much into the types of games and focused more on the main failure modes - either feeling pressured to win (and a sore loser) or feeling like you shouldn't even try.
I'm not entirely sure if a lot of her factual basis is that convincing (there's a heap of evopsych that I find kind of tenuous), but the advice is sound enough - basically just acknowledging that your brain is wired to notice and invent status games everywhere, and you need to give it something to win at; you need to rig your status game such that the outcome is entirely within your control (so, not gambling, not winning attention or affection or accolades from other people) and it needs to be something you value (I'm good at gaming, but I don't particularly value this skill).
Have you read Loretta Breuning's Status Games? Very similar content, but I think the advice is a bit more specific.
In particular, she doesn't delve so much into the types of games and focused more on the main failure modes - either feeling pressured to win (and a sore loser) or feeling like you shouldn't even try.
I'm not entirely sure if a lot of her factual basis is that convincing (there's a heap of evopsych that I find kind of tenuous), but the advice is sound enough - basically just acknowledging that your brain is wired to notice and invent status games everywhere, and you need to give it something to win at; you need to rig your status game such that the outcome is entirely within your control (so, not gambling, not winning attention or affection or accolades from other people) and it needs to be something you value (I'm good at gaming, but I don't particularly value this skill).